For Wendy, My Bestfriend

​EVERYDAY, ALL DAY, ANYDAY with BeeBee; Obiara Borga B3ba.

Happy one month anniversary to my bestie, Wendy and her hubby Liam who got married in May. I got inspired by Wendy’s quest for true love to write this article. So to you bestie, happy birthday and may this new journey be wonderful and blessed every single day.

Wendy is a beautiful girl with a beautiful heart. I have known her since high school and this girl goes out of her way to make people around her happy before herself. She is always available when you need help, cries with you when you sad and genuinely happy for you when you are happy. Mehn! She’s the definition of SELFLESS. Even after a month in marriage, she is still a great friend. Keep it up girl.

So per her dedication to friends, you will think she will have an almost perfect relationship. Unfortunately, she had the opposite. This is a girl who has gone through several heartbreaks and with every experience; I witnessed how it tore her apart. She never cheated, she never disrespected, she never stayed out late. Infact, she was a good girlfriend. She did virtually everything right in these relationships. And what was their excuse for leaving her for another; ‘Wendy, you deserve better’.

I have seen how these bad experiences broke my friend down. How she got drunk, how she became ‘unbothered’ about her life, how she became rude and even she tried to hurt herself. Yup! It wasn’t easy. People close to her got fed up. Why? This wasn’t the Wendy we knew. It hurt us to see how an angel like her got heart broken all the time. Maybe she dated demons that couldn’t stand her angelic personality, LOL!

Her  first heartbreak was very bad. GOSH! I had never seen real life heartbreak before so I was devastated. She broke down as usual after the second heartbreak but not as long as the first. She called me one day and was like; Bee, lets get a blood tonic, I want to grow fat. I want to eat and cry at the same time. Also, let’s start watching beauty tips on YouTube and look better. Lord, my friend was going crazy but she wasn’t, it was fun. I was going through heartbreak at that time and I totally glowed up. We gained weight, got a better fashion sense and started our lovely girls out with Christine, our other bestie. If your knew us in final year of college, you will understand what I am saying better.

What I totally loved about my bestie was the fact that she always believed in love, TRUE LOVE! After all the heartbreaks, she still had faith in love. She used to talk about how we will all get that guy who will love us, dedicate a love song for us, show us off and choose us over other girls. Through all her heartbreaks and terrible experience, Wendy was still confident she will meet her zing (from the animation, Hotel Translyvania which means the love of your life or the one you are meant to be with). And she did. When? After she began her self-love and appreciation.  After she stopped crying and glowed up. How? She started doing things she loved. She spoilt herself with clothes, make up, watched movies, enjoyed spending time with her mother and started her fashion blog, theglossychic (you can check it out). She stopped looking for love. She concentrated on herself and with a big bang, Liam came along. (‘Ni borga aba’). She just had to wait and love herself. Liam is the guy Wendy used to describe as her dream man. She just had to go off the past and all the unnecessary crying and pity, the regrets and ‘what ifs’. Now she is the happiest girl on earth because she got the ultimate price. She got married to her zing, Liam.

Wendy and Liam.

So girl, let go. Love yourself. Stop looking for love. Stop reducing your standards. Your ‘borga’ will come. He will love and cherish you. He will treat you like the queen you want to be. Just be patient, glow up, live your life without regrets, stop pleasing people, be happy, meet new people, be nice, drink lots of water, eat more fruits and vegetables, slay and pray everyday na woso WO BORGA B3BA. 

• PS: Wo Borga B3ba is a Ghanaian phrase which means your well-to-do relative or close friend will come back from overseas or literally means the love of your life will definitely come.